Pitocin started, stopped & started again.....learning problems years later?

In 1997, I was pregnant with my first child, a son. My OB/GYN discovered that my placenta was not functioning well enough and that my baby may not be getting enough nutrition. I was recommended to have my child 2 weeks earlier than due date.

I was admitted to the hospital and started on Pitocin. I recall that it was about 10:00 pm when the Pitocin got started. I did have contractions, pretty strong ones, but was not dilating at all. I don't recall how many hours it was, but by early morning, the pitocin was stopped. I don't recall how long after stopping it, that it was started again. Maybe 2 -3 hours.

I had told my OB/GYN that I did not want an epidural, as I had wanted to have my baby without this.

Well, after having contractions for about 14 hours, I was exhausted and hurting so much, I asked for an epidural.

Hours before having the epidural, I had felt a small burst sensation in by belly. Little did I know, nor the interns that were attending to me (it was a teaching hospital), that my water must have broken. I was on the bed in an all fours position as the nurse was trying to get my baby to turn. I did not even know for sure if he was or wasn't in the correct position. It was the first I had heard of it, so I did what she had suggested.

Later on, I sat up in a rocking chair. Being tired, still without, the epidural, I dozed off in the rocker only to be awakened later by the staff hurrying me into the bed and placing an oxygen mask on my face.

They never told me why, and I guess I just trusted what they needed to do, so I didn't ask them what happened. My husband and mother had stepped out when this happened, and so were not there.

After I got the epidural, I dilated very quickly. It was weird, that when the epidural needle went into my back, that I kicked the nurse standing in front of me. I think it was a reflex to the needle going into my spine.

I remember being so numb from my waist down and couldn't feel or move my legs. I felt a little breathless too. I could not feel anything, even when the doctor told me to push. She had to use forceps to get my baby out. I suffered what they called a stage 4 tear. My placenta was 40 percent calcified per the doctors response and my baby was 5 pounds 9 ounces.

I kissed him and they took him away, they said to give him "a little" oxygen.
I still couldn't feel my legs. I was taken into a different room, as is customary.
It wasn't until the next morning when I woke up that I was able to feel and move my legs again. I had a lot of swelling in my legs a few days after discharge. I had ted hose on, so I figured it would eventually go down, which it did, but to this day, I have some numbness in the bottom of both my feet.

My son is now almost 14 years old and has ADHD and ODD. He has trouble concentrating and struggles in school every year. I have had him tested by a psychologist. His IQ is in the low 80s. I don't know if any of the difficulty I had with my labor has caused all of his problems, but I have often felt that he must have had some oxygen deprivation. ? symptoms of pitocin? or the epidural?

I recommend anyone having a baby to educate yourself on any medications that you may be recommended to take. I feel so badly that my son has to struggle the way he does.